Love doctor
A few of these remarks will offer you something to feel good about and assist you appropriately highlight your admissions.
Messages of Romance to Show Your Love
Words will always have a significant role in expressing sincere love as long as the world exists. How about sending your partner some romantic text messages filled with confessions?
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I acknowledge that you are the one I was meant to be with forever and that you are my true love.
2. I’ve made a great effort to keep my actual feelings from you. But it’s been incredibly pointless. I adore you so much.
3. I really do love you more than words can express. Perhaps this is the reason I haven’t said anything.
4. You have ignited a light in my heart, and I am stating this to the world and to you.
5. It took me some time to realize that you are the one for me.
6. What has always been there is no longer something I avoid. I cherish you.
7. I’ve always prayed and wished that I would have the courage to tell the person I love them—you are the one.
8. Since meeting you, I’ve gotten a lot of strength and bravery. You are aware of my adoration.
9. I tried to hide this from you for far too long. It is no longer valuable to preserve. I cherish you.
10. It’s me who has been giving you flowers and love letters. I haven’t been brave enough to approach them face-to-face.
11. My gestures are a result of my affection for each of you your work; I hope you found them to be appropriate.
12. Your demeanor and body of work have always inspired me. With you, I want to push things farther.
13. I acknowledge that you are the one, and I want to begin living in our reality.
14. The natural world makes things work, and we have the freedom to dream.
15. It’s time for me to take a position and declare my intentions since I’ve been a coward for far too long. I cherish you!
16. Now that it’s out in the open, I can finally name you my one true love without feeling embarrassed.
17. Now that I have the confidence to tell you how much you mean to me, there is hope for the faint of heart and hope for myself as well.
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18. I’ve always thought that at some point, we’ll discover that our arms can soothe one another.
19. I sincerely hope it’s not too late to express to you how much I enjoy spending time with you.
20. You bring me happiness and are the reason I am always happy.
21. Meeting you was the best thing that has ever happened to me.
22. You’ve been encircling me in your arms for a while now. It has taken me a long time to adore you.
23. Since the moment I laid eyes on you, I want to never get weary of loving you.
24. Something is certain in our bond that has transcended time and logic. My love is for you.
25. I must admit something! I fantasize that you will be in my tomorrow, fully embraced by love.
26. I’ve been deprived of the opportunity to express how I really feel since I’m carrying the burden of escorting you around. I’m going to tell you right now.
27. I’ve been too protective of you for too long, and now that I don’t have to live without you for years, I’m letting my guard down.
28. I am no longer motivated to stay in this one-sided romantic relationship. I would love nothing more than to spend my life with you and be your true love.
29. I want to be with you and I love you, and I’m expressing it now before it’s too late.
30. It’s been a very amazing experience for me to be friends with you. But that’s it! Actually, I’ve wanted to be more than simply buddies for a long time.
31. I hope it’s not strange to you that I’ve always liked you more than simply as a friend.
32. My willingness to go above and above to ensure your happiness is greater. It’s evident in the way I perceive you.
33. I realized right away that you would be my entire existence. You inspire me to strive for excellence.
34. I have not yet met a person as stunning as you. I adore your methods so much.
35. I’ve experienced many wonderful things, but none of them match the impact you’ve had on my life.
36. It has been really stressful for me to hide behind friendship for decades. I’m telling you that I adore you right now.
You can’t have a successful relationship if you keep projecting your failures and insecurities on your partner. You alone are responsible for the mistakes you have made. You have to be intentional about tackling your insecurities. It is simply asking too much to expect your partner to bear the brunt of your hurt, insecurities and failures. Some persons are having a hard time holding down a regular partner because they are emotionally, mentally and psychologically damaged from previous failed relationships but they don’t know about this. If you don’t accept the things that are true about you, and work intentionally towards addressing them, you risk living an agonisingly single and lonely life.
One of the things that could complicate your life is refusing to accept that there’s a supernatural force behind your life and that there are spiritual forces controlling the physical. I am not talking about religion here. I talking about coming to terms with the spiritual nature of life and the supernatural forces controling the universe. From my experience, most of our problems stems from the belief that we can handle or have the knowledge to handle everything by ourselves. Sometimes all you have to do is kneel and pray. Don’t over think the situation. Don’t cower in the face of adversity. Report the matter to the one who created you, and watch Him make wonders happen.
You cannot enjoy a life of peace if you don’t stop comparing your growth with others’, get rid of greed and envy and master the act of thanksgiving and contentment. A lot has happened in the year, but you are here, hale and hearty. Give thanks to God.
UPDATE for those who’re feeling miserable for not getting married this year; for not finding their bearing in life; for not having kids; for losing their jobs; for not hitting their lofty targets this year; for losing money; for not japaring; for being jilted by someone they genuinely loved, etc.
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The challenges that come with adulthood can be daunting. But you’ve got to remember every step of the way that being alive and healthy is your biggest testimony.
To foster genuine happiness in marriage, it is essential that a man seeks a partner who embodies the following qualities:
1) A woman who respects and values you.
2) A woman committed to fidelity in the relationship.
3) A woman who appreciates contentment and acknowledges your efforts.
4) A woman willing to collaborate and respect your role as a partner.
5) A woman who actively listens and communicates effectively.
6) A woman resilient against societal pressures, staying true to her values.
7) A woman who respects your social connections and manages family dynamics adeptly.
8) A naturally joyful woman.
9) A woman who forgives readily, fostering a forgiving atmosphere.
10) A woman at peace with herself, contributing to harmony in the relationship.
11) A woman who recognizes her own worth.
12) A woman with a well-rounded life that extends beyond the relationship.
Prioritizing these qualities contributes to a fulfilling and genuinely happy marital life.
Nothing is constant in life. Everything changes with time. The things that meant so much will mean so little or nothing, and the things that meant little or nothing will begin to take center stage and will mean a lot in the cause of time. Be the change you want to see in someone. There’s nothing like a perfect man or a perfect woman. Find a good person who loves and cares about you and love them to perfection.
If your partner celebrates every other person on social media on their special days except you, chances are, they are not fully into you, are not proud of you, are cheating with someone else or it is all of the above. The name for when someone is literally hiding you from the public is “secrecy.” It is not “privacy.” Understand the difference and decide whether that relationship is worth the mental, psychological, emotional and physical efforts you’re commiting into it. Here’s something else you need to know about privacy: it’s not something one party decides for the relationship. Privacy is often a collective decision. You and your partner will have to decide that it is in your best interests to keep your relationship from the public eye. No sole party has the power to make a unilateral call on privacy. In your quest for love, steer clear of manipulative, dubious and overly individuals disguised as being religious.
You do not need some connections in life, because some connections will only make you toil in vein. Everyone is looking out for what’s best for them and how they can use you to fulfil their dreams. Sometimes what you need is not connection. what you need is complete trust in your abilities and grit. Nobody can love you more than you love yourself. This is a fact of life.
What you value the most takes your time and attention the most. If a person is not giving you their time and attention, it’s because they don’t value you. If a person would see your call and not pick or read your texts and not reply, it’s because they don’t give a damn about you. We all have challenges we are battling with. Nonetheless, no one can go to bed happy without hearing from the one they love. Don’t let anyone fool you with lies.
Getting to live the life of your dreams, free from social norms, free from religion, free from culture, free from the problems of nuclear and extended family, is a testimony.
Many people merely exist, they’re not living. No matter your situation at the moment, be consoled in the fact that where you are at the moment, is someone’s prayer point.
You shall live to fulfill your destiny in Jesus name!
Despite the abundance of choices available to you, you persistently express dissatisfaction with a partner who consistently seizes every opportunity to show disrespect.
However, you have chosen to remain in this situation. It is essential to recognize that, at some point, the issue may not lie with them but rather with you. Staying in a relationship with someone who consistently belittles you, disrespects you, and causes emotional pain may indicate deeper underlying issues.
It’s crucial to consider that the problem might be within yourself, rather than solely attributed to your partner’s actions. Someone who’s mentally okay can never be in love with their abuser.
You can’t buy loyalty. It is there or it is not. It’s not about how wealthy you are. Loyalty cannot be bought. You have to accept that. You have to live with that. Or you can move on with the optimism that the next one will be loyal. Life has never been fair. People aren’t going to treat you nice because you treated them nice. This is something you have to accept and live with as you grow older.
If you cannot hold healthy conversations with them, they’re not your life partner. Communication is the single most important quality to look out for in a person you intend to spend forever with. What they say when they’re upset, how they conduct themselves when they’re upset, how long it takes for them to calm down and be in the mood to iron things out with you…all matter in the grand scheme of things.
A person who doesn’t forgive; who is difficult to please; who isn’t appreciative; who isn’t emotionally sensitive; who isn’t naturally happy and find joy in the little things; who doesn’t motivate you; who you don’t find sexually attractive; who is always right; who doesn’t make compromises, cannot be your life partner.
Ignore these things at your peril.
HOW TO STOP MASTURBATION
DO NOT masturbate. Masturbation begins as fun at a PHYSICAL level (INFLUENCE). Then it gets hooked at the MENTAL level (ADDICTION). Finally, it gets deeply rooted in the SPIRITUAL sphere (SLAVERY).
Overcoming masturbation begins by having self-audit of your spiritual life. Let no one tell you it is impossible. It is possible to defeat and quit masturbation. Fight it off because it robs your soul and numbs your self-esteem. You are the master-gardener of your soul, the director of your life.
Porn is a way to control people. Porn pacifies Men. It restricts them from unlocking their true potential. That’s why they want you addicted to it. Don’t be a slave to your sexual urges. The reason it’s free is because you pay with your soul.
Masturbation is a disgusting habit that weakens your body, corrodes your soul and defiles your spirit. If you are trying to overcome pornography and masturbation addiction, start fasting. Fast for 48 hours every week. Stay away from your phone at night and whenever you are alone. Spend time with a tribe of men.
Masturbation numbs your corrodes your spiritualism. It devours your sexualism. Masturbation destroys your divine masculine energy. It makes you compose nothing, create nothing, command nothing. You’ll become a useless, docile weak man with low self-esteem and zero masculine drive.
Masturbation and pornography are top killers of masculine energy and aggression in men. They leave you docile, dejected and depressed. The system wants you to remain docile so that you don’t attain your masculine potential as a MAN.
SELF POLLINATION is not a hereditary condition. No one inherits MASTURBATION from his father. Masturbation is a choice you make to fulfil your useless sexual urges. Masturbation destroys your body, mind and soul. Avoid SELF POLLINATION. Leave it to flowers.
Masturbation is a corrosive habit to your sexual polarity. It will frustrate your ability to have an intimate connection with a woman. It depolarizes your pleasure centres in the brain denying you the chance to enjoy sexual pleasure with your woman.
It is unmanly. It takes away your masculine spirit. It deflates your life force. It turns you into a weak, effeminate man who cannot take control of his cravings in life. This makes you a vulnerable man who can easily be manipulated by toxic women.
MASTURBATION is a deep-level habit embedded in the deeper layers of your soul. Healing from this uncouth habit begins with cleaning your soul and purifying your spirit.
Here is how:
– Benediction
– Fasting
– Semen retention
Don’t wait till it devours.
A man cannot heal from addiction if his SOUL is still dirty. Addiction to smoking, alcohol, masturbation and prostitution is a disease deep in your soul. Cleaning a man’s soul begins with overcoming cues and cravings. This is achieved by FASTING. Men MUST fast.
Your body is built on 3 layers
– Spiritual
– Mental
– Physical
Masturbation completely destroys these layers leaving you disorganized, dejected and depressed.
Consequences of masturbation:
Low self-esteem and poor self confidence
– Mental chaos and anxiety
– Anger and emotional weakness
– Erectile failure and premature ejaculation
– Backache, slouched shoulders and extended neck
– Hair loss
– Loser in life.
Once you begin quitting masturbation, you will face anxiety and distress. Don’t surrender. You will not declutter your mind in a month. It will take time. You’ve been masturbating for years, don’t expect to heal in a month. Keep going.
Resist going back to your old ways. If you stopped masturbation, gambling or alcohol, never go back. Never go back to the bottom. Listen to Ramon and Oj by Joyner Lucas ft Lil Baby.
Once you abandon masturbation addiction, you’ll begin facing battles,
-Wet dreams
-Night-long erections
-Hallucinations
These are withdrawal symptoms. Hang in there. Don’t relapse. It is a battle! Fight hard. You will overcome. Small wins lead to big results.
Here are 10 Reasons why you are relapsing and struggling to quit MASTURBATION
1. You have not changed your environment. Your mind is the product of your environment. Don’t be stuck in an environment that triggers cravings. Get into a new environment, and meet new peers. Take charge of your space. Be the architect of your environment, not the victim.
2. You don’t have a HABIT TRACKER. A habit tracker ensures you account for the successes and failures in your healing journey. Eg “If I masturbate, I must send money to R1000 to Mbayimbayi, every relapse is R1000 or I will switch off my phone for 24 hours.”
3. You don’t have a HABIT STACKER. A habit stacker is a daily routine that keeps your body, mind and soul busy. It rewires how your brain receives rewards and satisfaction. eg 4B’s of a Good Morning.
4. You watch TV and scroll through social media. Being on social media aimlessly feeds your brain with sensual triggers and sexual intent. Watching TV fires your dopamine circuits to manipulate your emotions. Read masculine books instead.
5. You are still active on effeminate apps. Luscious Apps like Instagram, dating apps, porn sites are social engineering projects to hijack men’s attention then lure them into consumerism and sex. Delete them. Restrict your WhatsApp presence. Eliminate Whatsapp status.
6. You don’t fast. Masturbation makes your mind chaotic and turns your brain circuits numb. Fasting declutters your mind and rewires your brain. Fasting trains you to overcome luscious triggers and helps you to control emotions.
7. You still eat junk. The food industry’s agenda is to get you hooked on junk foods. Sugar, sodas, alcohol and processed carbs drive your cravings for instant gratification by destroying your dopamine response. Avoid them to regenerate your dopamine receptors.
8. You don’t lift weights/exercises. Lifting weights and doing HIITs gives you a new sense of purpose and satisfaction. Pain in the gym is weakness leaving your body.
9. You are idle. You lack a masculine purpose where you can drive your energy. Chasing pleasure (eg women, sex, alcohol, drugs) is not a man’s purpose. A man’s purpose is to spend his energy building, constructing, creating and solving problems.
10. You don’t understand the consequences. If you deeply internalized the consequences of masturbation, you will not attempt to masturbate. Take a pen and a piece of paper, write down the consequences and you will understand why masturbation is uncouth, unmanly and unacceptable.
Not making it clear enough that you’re unavailable while in a serious relationship is an act of cheating. There is no such thing as “maybe,” and “kinda” when it comes to answering the question about relationship status. You’re either in a relationship or you’re not. You need to have your own standards if you don’t want your heart shattered by confused people. You’re not an experiment.
You’re the prize. Until you come to terms with your powers, you will continue to be taken for granted.
BE CAREFUL OF THOSE YOU CALL FRIENDS
Samson’s parents knew the secret of Samson’s strength since his birth, yet they told no one (Judges 13:5).
The day Delilah heard of it, she told Samson’s enemies and brought Samson down to his knees, they even plucked out his eyes and enslaved him. (Judges 16:17,18)
THREE LESSONS:
1. Everyone qualifies for your love, but not all the people you love qualify to know the secrets of your life! Because, some cannot handle it, and others cannot wait to trade your secret for personal gain!
2. The enemy that will destroy you, will not come with a sword but with a smile!
3. Learning to keep your friends’ secrets is not only about trust, but destinies are at stake. Nothing can be more dangerous and painful than to share your secrets with your enemy thinking they are your friends!
THREE CATEGORIES OF FRIENDS;
a.) Confidants – They will walk with you no matter how hard it gets. You need to be grateful if you have one
b.) Associates – They team up with you to achieve a common goal…..most of the time they compete for the same prize/goals with you! Be very careful with these kind, they may push you down in order to win the prize
c.) Comrades – They team up with you just to fight a common enemy. They will be gone once the enemy is defeated…..you should not be worried when they leave, they were there for a season.
“When you fail to succeed, it is not just your enemies who will laugh at you, even your friends will laugh at you. Your own family will laugh at you. You’ll get disrespected even by your siblings. Friends and family members may not wish you bad, but they’ll laugh at and mock you with subtle digs, if you’re not making progress in life.
They’ll make degrading statements and call you demeaning names, that if you have sense, you’ll know that it’s because you’re not making progress in life or don’t have money. Don’t be ignorant of these things, because they are the things that’ll spur you on to success.
If you don’t know these things, you’ll live a life of mediocrity, thinking that it is only your enemies that will celebrate your failure – not knowing that your friends and family are laughing at you behind your back – sometimes in your presence. What can you do? You need to succeed. “When you fail to succeed, it is not just your enemies who will laugh at you, even your friends will laugh at you. Your own family will laugh at you. You’ll get disrespected even by your siblings. Friends and family members may not wish you bad, but they’ll laugh at and mock you with subtle digs, if you’re not making progress in life. They’ll make degrading statements and call you demeaning names, that if you have sense, you’ll know that it’s because you’re not making progress in life or don’t have money. Don’t be ignorant of these things, because they are the things that’ll spur you on to success. If you don’t know these things, you’ll live a life of mediocrity, thinking that it is only your enemies that will celebrate your failure – not knowing that your friends and family are laughing at you behind your back – sometimes in your presence.
What can you do?
YOU NEED TO SUCCEED.
You were not born to fail, you have no choice than to succeed because failure is an orphan and success has many relatives.
Avoid men who hold the belief that it is natural for men to cheat. As you grow older, there are things you don’t even consider. You don’t have to hold lengthy conversations with a person, or date them for months to know all about them and what they represent. From casual exchanges, from the opinions they give on trending topics, you can form a correct opinion about them.
Adulthood is about taking responsibility. Don’t make a conscious decision to remain with a senseless person and wonder why your life is filled with sadness. Don’t let desperation dictate your life choices and decisions.
Things you should keep private:
– Your relationship issues. Date in private
– Financial Situation
– Your family problems and issues
– Your personal secrets
– Your biggest dreams and goals
– Your acts of kindness
– Your next Move
– Your marriage. Marry in private. Disagree in private. Quarel in private. End it in private. Raise children in private.
Remember, Privacy is Power. Work in silence. Celebrate in private. Be silent. It will cost you nothing.
- Laugh it off
A young lady went to EKO bridge to commit suicide. A sailor Kunle saw her and advised her to join his ship that he would stow her away to Europe. The lady agreed. Kunle put her under deck and everyday he gave her food and they had sex.
One day the captain discovered her and asked what she was doing under the deck.She told him someone who claimed to be the captain kept her till they reach Europe and ‘they screwed everyday.’
The captain laughed and said ‘you are really being screwed because I am the captain and the guy having sex with you is the sailor and we are just a local fishing trawler. All these 30 days he has been enjoying you, we were just moving between Ikorodu and Tin-can Island’.
Envy does not come from a place of lack, it comes from a place of selfishness. A man could have so much money in his account but feels bad that another person is earning the little he is earning.
That a person has more cars than you does not mean he cannot be envious of your small Camry. The thought of “it should have been me”, comes from a place of envy and selfishness.
Sometimes you can get envious of people without knowing but you just feel sad about their achievement. You wish it was you. Envy if not checked turns to witchcraft.
It is also possible for people who helped you to be envious of your achievement. Envy is a deadly poison that makes one not to be satisfied and contented with what they have.
Always check yourself and make sure you are not becoming envious of anyone and if you are, take practical steps to kill it. Envy can destroy you, if not checked.
12 Habits that will keep you healthy
1 Have Breakfast
It’s important for a bunch of reasons. It jump-starts your metabolism and stops you from overeating later. Plus, studies show that adults who have a healthy breakfast do better at work, and kids who eat a morning meal score higher on tests. If a big plateful first thing isn’t for you, keep it light with a granola bar or a piece of fruit. Just don’t skip it.
2 Plan Your Meals
It’ll help you save time and money in the long run. Block out some time, then sit down and consider your goals and needs. Do you want to lose weight? Cut back on sugar, fat, or carbs? Add protein or vitamins? Meal prep keeps you in control. You know what you’re eating and when. A bonus: It’ll be that much easier to skip those doughnuts in the breakroom at work.
3 Drink Plenty of Water
It can do so many good things for you. Staying hydrated is at the top of the list, but it may also help you lose weight. Another reason to go for H2O? Sugary drinks are linked to obesity and type 2 diabetes. If you aren’t a fan of plain water, add flavor with slices of orange, lemon, lime, watermelon, or cucumbe
4 Take an Exercise Break
Don’t just grab another cup of coffee — get up and move. Do some deep lunges or stretches. It’s great for your body and mind. Just 30 minutes of walking five times a week may help keep the blues at bay. And if you can’t do those minutes all at once, short bursts help, too.
5 Go Offline
Checking your email and social media a lot? Sure, your friends’ and family’s latest updates are just a click away, but do you really need to see pictures of your cousin’s latest meal? Let it wait until morning. Set a time to log off and put the phone down. When you cut back on screen time, it frees you to do other things. Take a walk, read a book, or help your cousin chop veggies for her next great dinner.
6 Learn Something New
New skills help keep your brain healthy. Sign up for a dance class or a creative writing workshop. Better yet, master a new language. The mental work it takes can slow the signs of aging and may even delay the effects of Alzheimer’s disease.
7 Don’t Smoke
If you light up, quit. It’s a big move toward better health. Your body repairs itself quickly. As soon as 20 minutes after your last cigarette, your heart rate and blood pressure drop. Why wait? Kick the habit, today. Your doctor will be happy to help you get started.
8 Sleep Well
There are almost too many benefits to list. A good night’s sleep keeps you in a better mood, sharpens memory and focus, and helps you learn new things. In the long term, it lowers your risk of heart disease and helps you keep trim. Aim to get 7 to 9 hours a night. For the best rest, do it on schedule — turning in and waking up at about the same times every day.
9 Train Your Muscles
Strength training helps your body trade fat for muscle mass. That means you’ll burn more calories even when you’re being a couch potato. But these workouts can also help you slim down, strengthen your heart, and build up your bones. Do strength-training exercises — like push-ups, lunges, and weight lifting — at least twice a week.
10 Head Outdoors
A few minutes in the sunshine raises vitamin D levels, and that’s good for your bones, your heart, and your mood. Plus, being outside means you’re more likely to move your body instead of parking it in front of the TV or computer. Choose nature over city streets, if you can. One study found that people who strolled in urban green spaces were calmer than people who walked in built-up areas.
11 Keep Your Balance
If you’re young and active, good balance will help you avoid injuries. If you’re older, it will keep you active longer and lower the chances you’ll fall and break a bone. No matter your age, good balance means better muscle tone, a healthier heart, and greater confidence. Yoga and tai chi are great ways to work on it, but just about anything that keeps you moving, even walking, can help.
12 Be Mindful
It can mean meditating or simply stopping to smell the roses. However you do it, studies show mindfulness slashes stress, relieves pain, and improves your mood. And scientists are beginning to understand how. One study found that 8 weeks of regular meditation can change parts of your brain related to emotions, learning, and memory. Even washing dishes can be good for your brain, as long as you do it mindfully.
You’re trying to break ancestral barriers. You’re trying to be the one who changes the fortunes of your family.
Think of your strife this way: it’ll ripple through time, altering fates and destinies. It will be hard. There’ll be setbacks. You will feel alone most of the time. But you can do it. Yes, you can!
- Note
If you are sitting in a high table and have access to opportunities, help those who have capability but lack access to opportunity.
We’re all fighting the battle to success and the path can be rough and frustrating. Be a Pillar not an Obstacle.
Remember if you are poor you’ll been seen as a liability by people. Your greetings will be mistakenly taken for financial begging. Help uplift your siblings and friends.
When you get to the top, remember to send the ladder down, so that you friends too can climb to the top. Your car alone cannot make a convoy. It’s time you become honest with your friends and tell them where you get money. Telling them to “keep pushing” or “keep praying” is not helping. They are tired of pushing and their knees are full of bruises.
What you keep tolerating will keep manifesting in your relationship. It’s not going to go away all of a sudden, until you decide to put a stop to it by being firm and decisive about what you can’t accept.
Until you attain the point where you couldn’t care less about what anyone thinks about the choices you have to make to be free, you’re not ready for freedom.
If your parents count on you, don’t play the same game with those who count on their parents. These are very different worlds. One has nothing to lose while the other has to tighten all loose ends.
It is shameful for a man to live lavishly in the city, buying expensive drinks and feeding slay queens while his mother or father in the village suffers and siblings not in school because of fees. A man’s first duty is to protect his parents and provide for his siblings.
Remember “thank you my son” has blessings and is better than thank you honey, baby. Be responsible in your family, don’t rise alone. Remember your sisters and brothers who need your help. Family first. Those are the real relatives you have not slay queens.
When things turns sour or fall apart, all your city friends will abandon and depart from you but your parents and siblings will remain with you forever.
Nothing beats working in silence and letting your results speak for themselves. Privacy is the key. Don’t tell people about your next move, relationship or family issues. People cannot destroy what they don’t know. Work in silence. Celebrate in private. Be silent. Focus on our goals without seeking external validation.
There is power in telling people less than necessary on the internet. Most people online are always bored and one step away from depression or stress. One wrong move and they throw you under the bus with the information you willingly gave them. There is power in anonymity. Use selective honesty, let people assume that they know so much about you yet they know nothing. Master that.
Never splash personal and family information for instant gratification and tentative dopamine, it seldom end well. The people who cheer you have more than one Facebook account and will use the others to troll you and throw you under the bus. Be private.
- Maturity
Maturity is when we learn from our experience and improve our mindset towards situations and people.
With our experiences of life, our perception and outlook changes. Things that matter much to us slowly don’t bother us anymore.
We learn that things will happen, plans might not work and other people might act in certain way that we don’t approve of but instead of being sad and miserable, we learn to accept it.
We embrace many situations in life and ignore even people who try to prove us wrong because we realise our mental peace is more important that anything that may disturb that peace.
To have maturity in your thoughts, you must understand and embrace that people don’t think and feel the same as you do.
There will be people who will always challenge you. Many times it is better to not prove your point even if you are right because they are not worth it.
Psychologists will tell you that one of the best ways to get a sense of what someone else is feeling is to imagine how you would feel in the same situation. This type of reasoning, sometimes called egocentric projection.
A boyfriend who was not comfortable with his girlfriend being taught how to drive by her male bestie was called “manipulative,” “controlling” and “insecure.” Never mind that girlfriend has had an affair with the bestie in the past, which boyfriend is well aware of. Boyfriend conforms to social standards and decides to chill so as not to be branded misogynistic and anti women progress.
Boyfriend buys his car and decides to teach his female besties how to drive. Instead of understanding like he was, girlfriend brands boyfriend a “serial cheat” and an “irresponsible” man.
Moral: If you cannot accept what you’re dishing out to your partner if it’s dished out to you, and you’ve refused to amend your ways, you’re a toxic person. Many of you blame everyone for your problems without looking inward, and it’s probably why you’re single and unhappy. Nobody wants to be with a selfish person.
You know you are in a healthy relationship when both of you are not ashamed or feel too proud to admit your faults and to apologize to each other for your mistakes.
Nothing is as sweet as hearing one’s partner say: “babe, I was wrong. I overreacted. I didn’t give you the chance to explain yourself. I reached a hasty conclusion. I was too hard on you. I know I messed up.”
And then end it with the magic words: “I am sorry.”
Assure and reassure your partner of your commitment to the relationship.
Put your relationship over your ego. Put it over your friends.
It is not easy for someone to commit to being in your life forever.
Anyone who advises you to ignore your partner if they refuse to eat your food and go to bed unhappy doesn’t want the best for your relationship.
We are emotional beings. If you can’t pamper your partner; if you can’t pet them; if you can’t apologize for your wrongs and for peace to reign; if you know deep down in your heart that you cannot compromise your personal values to accommodate those of your partner’s, being in a relationship will frustrate you.
One of the things that you don’t often hear is that: relationship and marriage is not for everyone.
During a robbery in Zimbabwe, the bank robber shouted to everyone in the bank: “Don’t move. The money belongs to the State. Your life belongs to you.” Everyone in the bank lay down quietly. This is called the “Mind Changing Concept” Changing the conventional way of thinking.
When a lady lay on the table provocatively, the robber shouted at her: “Please be civilized! This is a robbery and not a rape!” This is called “Being Professional” Focus only on what you are trained to do!
When the bank robbers returned home, the younger robber (MBA-trained) told the older robber (who has only completed Year 6 in primary school): “Big brother, let’s count how much we got.” The older robber rebutted and said: “You are very stupid. There is so much money it will take us a long time to count. Tonight, the TV news will tell us how much we robbed from the bank!” This is called “Experience.” Nowadays, experience is more important than paper qualifications!
After the robbers had left, the bank manager told the bank supervisor to call the police quickly. But the supervisor said to him: “Wait! Let us take out $10 million from the bank for ourselves and add it to the $70 million that we have previously embezzled from the bank”. This is called “Swim with the tide.” Converting an unfavourable situation to your advantage! The supervisor says: “It will be good if there is a robbery every month.” This is called “Killing Boredom.” Personal Happiness is more important than your job.
The next day, the TV news reported that $100 million was taken from the bank. The robbers counted and counted and counted, but they could only count $20 million. The robbers were very angry and complained: “We risked our lives and only took $20 million. The bank manager took $80 million with a snap of his fingers. It looks like it is better to be educated than to be a thief!” This is called “Knowledge is worth as much as gold!” The bank manager was smiling and happy because his losses in the share market are now covered by this robbery. This is called “Seizing the opportunity.” Daring to take risks!
So who are the real robbers here?
Arguing with a fool proves there are two.
The easiest way to wait for something is to forget it exists.
Leave, when a promise turns into a sorry.
The worst type of loneliness is the loneliness you feel when you are with people.
There are no rules of attraction when it comes to meeting your match.
You don’t need to compromise on your standard, the right person will come to you.
The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.
A toxic person only changes their victims, never themselves.
A conversation about how you feel is not supposed to end in an argument.
Someone’s effort is a reflection of their interest in you.
You can be the whole package at the wrong address.
Facts over feelings. Don’t let your emotions play with your intelligence.
Sometimes it is not that your partner is a bad person. Sometimes, they simply just don’t love you enough to treat you the way you deserve, and I know that this is usually a very difficult fact for most people who are emotionally invested in their relationship to accept.
Nobody is absolutely terrible. People give the best version of themselves to those they genuinely care about and love. That guy who treats you like shit literally worships another lady. That lady who doesn’t return your calls is always waiting by her phone and eagerly anticipating a call or text from her dream man.
This is why I find it strange that some persons actually believe that they’re so special, that when their partner leaves them, they won’t find anyone else better than them. Please wake up. One of the worst things you can do to yourself is to live life hoping that someone who left you will suffer for their actions. This rarely happens in real life. They left you because they didn’t want you for the long haul.
You need to learn to focus on yourself and hope that you eventually meet someone who loves you enough to commit the whole of themselves into making sure that the both of you work out. Good luck.
Genuine love or friendship is a two-way street. If people are trying to be a part of your life and you’re pushing them away with uncouth behaviour that you constantly defend, eventually, they’ll tire out and leave you alone. Everyone is going through a lot. It’s adulthood. Going through a lot is not an excuse to disprespect people. You must live with the realities that adulthood brings.
No one has the time to keep chasing you for friendship or a relationship. No one will keep massaging your ego. Eventually, if you don’t change, you will be truly alone.
When you’ve been hurt by the person who you’ve always thought will be the love of your life, things change, you feel used, betrayed and all you see is the world falling. Now you get scared to get attached again with anyone coming your way ’cause you fear they will hurt you just like that person you once trusted so much did to you. But this isn’t always the case.
First, you need to accept your past, knowing fully well that you cannot change it, then forgive yourself, then shut the past and open your mind’s eyes to look into the bright future which embodies limitless possibilities.”
The less people know about the troubles in your relationship, the more they’ll respect you.
Each time you’re tempted to badmouth your partner to anyone or to the public; each time you’re tempted to ridicule them; destroy their reputation, expose their flaws, I employ you to remember that, while you may someday forgive your partner and makeup with them, you won’t ever be able to erase the things you’ve said about them, and the impression you’ve created about them in the minds of people who shouldn’t matter in the grand scheme of things about your life. Being hurt isn’t an excuse to be vulnerable and stupid.
There’re are things that you tell people that makes you their prisoner for life. Always be cautious. Every relationship has its ups and downs. You’re not the first to be going through a difficult time in your relationship/marriage and you won’t be the last.
Toxic and wicked people always want to control your mind and thought process. They begin by trying to curry pity.
The excuse they give for their nasty behaviour is, “you don’t know what I have been through.” They want everyone else to know what they’ve been through but don’t want to know what others have been through. They believe that their experiences supersede those of others and everyone should understand them the way they are, because they have been through a lot in life.
Truth is, every adult has been through something that has changed them in ways they could never be as naive as they were when they hadn’t those experiences.
Bitter experiences are stuff we should be grateful for and learn from, not bitter about.
Truth is, experiences reveal who we truly are. If everyone were to use their past experiences as an excuse to be toxic, insensitive, cold and wicked towards everyone they meet in life, there won’t be a single good person left on earth.
Come to think of it, how would you ever be able to meet a good person if you believe everyone who comes to you is bad and or is as terrible as the people who have hurt you in the past?
One of the things to look for, especially in a partner you are hoping to spend forever with, is the extent to which their past has had a bearing on their present.
If you’re with a person who always justifies their cruelty toward you with their past, it is a sign that they’re toxic, wicked and that you won’t ever be happy with them.
It’s a sign that you should back peddle on your emotions. It is risky to fall in love with a person in this generation before you have gotten to know who they really are.
Avoid people who hurt your feelings, and instead of apologising, they try to explain why they hurt you. Whether as a lover or a friend, you will never be happy having someone like that in your life. If you’re explaining how a person has hurt you and they say: “this is who I am,” believe them.The first sign of remorse is accepting responsibility for your actions. If they’re not accepting responsibility, they’re not sorry.
No matter how deeply you love your man, occasionally give him space to breathe. Find something else that excites you apart from your man.
Understand that he won’t always want to be with you and around you. Understand that there are moments when he wants to be with and around his guys.
Understand that your man wanting a little bit of lone time away from you does not mean he doesn’t love you. A vast majority of men do not want their women being too clingy. I hope these little tips helps your relationship blossom.
Life has more loses than wins. Sometimes life throw stones. Sometimes life doesn’t go as planned. Sometimes it flops sometimes you celebrate, that’s life. No one has a manual to it. Have direction. Be strong even if there are no handouts. Even if you start from the sands.
If you get an opportunity, never miss or mess. It’s not cool in the streets. Don’t fake your life. Avoid drugs. Avoid debts. Build yourself. Avoid alcohol abuse.
Even if the weights are hard to bear and lift. Even if you are broke, hang in. Don’t pretend like you have money to impress people. Even if you feel like you are in the wilderness. Even if your girlfriend dumps you because you don’t have money, let her go. It is not the end of the world.
Remember the strongest soldiers get the hardest fight. Even if you are running out of plans. Don’t move too fast. No revenge. Don’t limit yourself. Find a way out of poverty.
Don’t repeat the same mistake. Don’t rely on anyone, people change, people switch. Don’t trust anyone. Calculate what you stand to lose. No making stupid moves. Avoid peer pressure. Avoid competing with anyone. Run you pace. Don’t blame evil spirits for your foolishness. Action. Be strong even if there are no handouts. Don’t spend too much on beer while your family starves. Never disguise. It is the only dead man who can’t smile.
Don’t add more burden to yourself. Responsibilities will dry you out. Don’t force love, it must be balanced.
Also, if you lose your job, don’t panic. Reorganize your expenses. Go back to the village to recover. Your wife might dump you, pack and leave. Let this not bother. Learn the lessons. You will recover. Hang in there.
You will know your genuine friends when
– You are arrested and locked in police/jail cells.
– You lost a loved one.
– You lost your job.
– When you are at rock bottom.
Genuine friends visit you in both bad and good because they share in both the joy of your freedoms and the pain of your loss.
Fake friends only appear in your freedoms. Real friends emerge in hardships. Others are just people who just know you, know the difference. No school will teach you this.
No one has a perfect life. You just don’t know where it pinches them, because they may have refused to open up, or used some distractions to cover up their lack and shortcomings. Do not be deceived by fake living. Embrace your flaws and live your life to the fullest with the little you have. If you can eat, walk, breath, run, see, hear, use the toilet, drink, sleep and wake up without feeling pain in your body, be grateful to God because you have a wonderful life.
Learn to control your emotions. Learn to control your anger. Learn to be silent when you are feeling critical. Tame your mouth in the heat of anger. Shut your mouth if your words could cause damage or if you can’t say it without screaming. Master your emotions.
I don’t know who wants to hear this, but no matter the depth of your current predicament, you will come out. It doesn’t matter what people think about you, that’s their problem. what matters is how you respond to your situation. It is dark before dawn. Hang on! Don’t drop! If things are bad, they’re temporary. If you are struggling, it’s temporary.
The pain you are experiencing is temporary. It is a season, it will pass. No suffering lasts forever. Hang in there, keep looking up! As long as you’re still breathing there’s still hope.Never ever give up. You are still work in progress therefore put in the work and trust the process.
You have immense potential. Don’t lose momentum, keep knocking, the door will open. Your better days are coming. You are much greater than you think of yourself. The more hard work you put in, the better will be the results. Don’t underestimate yourself.
Keep your plans private. Keep your financial status private. Date in private. Marry in private. Quarel in private. Raise children in private. Flourish in private. Disagree in private. Break-up in private. Don’t be excited by social media attention. If the relationship fails, keep it private too. Keep your life as private as possible. It will cost you nothing.
Keep your plans to yourself and avoid sharing them with others. Your goals are precious, so keep them safe from the influence of others.
Keep family issues confidential and avoid discussing them with others, especially strangers. Family is a sacred bond, so protect it by keeping it within the family.
Don’t disclose your financial status to everyone you meet. Money is a sensitive subject, so keep your financial information private to avoid unwanted attention.
Don’t reveal personal information, such as your address, to strangers. Your safety comes first, so protect yourself by keeping personal information confidential.
Avoid discussing the private aspects of your life, such as your daily routines or personal habits. Your privacy matters, so keep your lifestyle details exclusive to you.
Actions speak louder than words, so let your achievements do the talking. Humility is a virtue, so let your actions and knowledge speak for themselves. Refrain from broadcasting your life to strangers.
Master the art of self-discipline. Get up early, work long hours. Be a man, face your problems head on. Be smart enough to quit porn, masturbation and alcohol abuse. They’re the worst distraction that’ll raise your dopamine, make you dumb, and depressed.
Be smart, set yourself 10 years ahead. Sleep early and work up early. Read self development books. Be willing to let go off relationships and friendships that don’t serve you. They’re your greatest setback. If you hangout with losers, you become a loser.
Learn a high-income skill. Stop chasing cheap dopamine. Prioritize what’s important over pleasure. Remember that you are responsibile for your life and never blame circumstances or anyone.
Hang out with people who obsess over making moves and living a good life. Your circle should live an honest life not gossip, complain, or get jealous of each other. No excuses.
It is not love if they are not making sacrifices for you and to be with you. Everyone can love you from a place of convenience. Everyone can call you when they are free, lonely and bored. Everyone can keep you if you make yourself available as an option. Real love however is a choice, a conscious choice to love you and care for you against all the odds, a choice to put you first before anything and anyone else. In your search for genuine love, it is important to have this at the back of your mind: Love is a choice, not a feeling. Genuine love is what remains after the feelings are gone.
It is unchristianlike to pray and worry. Prayer is the act of surrendering all of your worries and burdens, to a known God, with thanksgiving. Prayer should bring you respite and hope. Not despair. As a child of God, it is an error to be worried about what you’ve committed into the hands of your maker. Be at peace and trust God to take total charge of the situation.
Isaiah 41:10:
“Do not be afraid, for I am with you
Do not be anxious, for I am your God
I will fortify you, yes, I will help you,
I will really hold to you with my right hand of righteousness”.
It is well with you in Jesus’ name.
Men take every little thing seriously when they’re in love with you. You’ll notice that they want to try to do everything for you, even when you know that what they want to do for you is beyond their financial capacity.
You’ll notice that he won’t be comfortable with any man (even your brother) helping out with money. He would want to prove to you that he’s able and capable. He would want to prove to you that he alone, by himself, is enough for you.
If you’re hurt, you’ll see in his eyes that he’s hurt too. He’ll be jealous, a bit overprotective, sweet and homely. He’ll act sometimes like a baby. He’ll beg for forgiveness irrespective of who’s at fault, he’ll pamper you, play with you, rack jokes, make time to call you no matter how busy or tight his schedule is, he’ll flatter you with words and make you understand, through his actions (NOT JUST HIS WORDS) that without you, he’s incomplete.
This is true love.
Any man who continually hurts you doesn’t love you.
Any man who’s not making efforts to do whatever it takes to make you happy does not love you.
Any man who becomes a vulture whenever you refuse to indulge in sex, does not care about your feelings and state of mind. How can a person who doesn’t care, love?
I have not said he won’t want to have sex with you. I have not said he won’t make moves.
What I am saying is, if you say NO, he’ll respect your wish and wear a cheerful face afterwards. You can always talk and do other fun things.
Love is not sex and sex is not love. Don’t let anyone confuse you.
I can’t teach you how to leave a person who doesn’t love you – because that is entirely up to you.
But I can show you many signs of genuine love, because I can recognize genuine love from a thousand miles away.
One of the things your narcissistic partner can do to you is to make you doubt your sanity and sense of judgement.
The tool they use for this is gas-lighting. They make you blame yourself for their abusive attitude toward you. They make you lose faith in yourself. They also weaken your resolve to walk away, because you feel you’re the cause of your own abuse.
Read books. When in doubt, consult a counsellor or a friend whose opinion you trust to be objective. Don’t use the sentiments of your partner as the basis for your decisions. Most people are going through severe abuse without knowing that they are being abused.
Abuse can be very subtle, when it isn’t physical.
Dear Queens
sometimes the problem isn’t you.
Sometimes you need to step back and let a man deal with his insecurity issues. Sometimes you need to let him decide and respect his decision. Sometimes the one you love is simply not the one for you. Sometimes it takes losing you for them to appreciate your value.
Learn to know when to quit trying, because you can neNobody is doing you any favours by being in a relationship with you. If that’s what they think, let them go. If they act like it, let them go. If they’re not giving you their best, let them go. If they’re not living up to your expectations, let them go. If they find someone better than you, let them go.
True love heals. It never hurts.ver be perfect for the wrong person.
Nobody is doing you any favours by being in a relationship with you. If that’s what they think, let them go. If they act like it, let them go. If they’re not giving you their best, let them go. If they’re not living up to your expectations, let them go. If they find someone better than you, let them go.
True love heals. It never hurts.
People don’t like you, they like the value you add to their lives. Birds and animals don’t like trees, they like the shade and fruits from the trees.
Success will come to you. Trust your higher self. Failure and rejection is necessary. Reject pessimism. Keep failing over. Fail better next. Keep trying again. Envision the dream.
Don’t give in to doubt. The world is truly yours, conquer it. Failure is a step to success. Be private. Make everything your fault. Find the beast within you. Throw yourself into pain. Cut out all the excuses. Go all in on yourself. Train like a warrior. Work like a robot. Eat like a king. Reject vices. Transform. Upgrade. Create. Thrive. Win. Above all, be disciplined!
An adult has no one but himself and his Maker. If you’re depending on someone else to provide for your needs and propel you to the next level, your maturity is questionable. If you have not developed mechanisms to cope with disappointments, you’re still a child. If your entire existence depends on human connections and promises, you’re a toddler in the game of life.
Secrets are your power. Whether in friendship, in business or in marriage. That’s why it’s called “secret.” Giving someone a piece of information that they can use to destroy your life in the name of “trust” is not wisdom. As a matter of fact, this is the height of foolishness.
Trust no one.
Some people keep complaining about their inability to find true love. And most times, the problem is not that they’ve not met amazing people. The problem usually isn’t that they haven’t found love that could be true. The problem usually is that they’re not looking for true love. They are looking for someone that they can manipulate, control and dominate. They are looking for someone who’ll surrender their power and be vulnerable to their manipulative ways.
People like this are users and they never truly find genuine love. True love does not exist outside the concept of reciprocity. You cannot take and not give in love. You can’t say you want to be listened to and not listen to your partner in love. You can’t talk about tolerance without touching on change.
The idea that someone will let their guards down and love you wholeheartedly whilst you continue to be selfish with your decisions and treat them like trash will keep you far away from finding and enjoying true love for life.
True love is continues daily work. It is emotional, mental and physical investment. Anyone who does absolutely nothing and expects to be loved perfectly is a selfish person, and selfish people never find true love.
Never!
A user only cares for you when they need or because they need something from you. An acquaintance is someone you know who is not your friend. You just know them.
They can also take advantage of the privilege of knowing you to exploit you. On no condition should you share your secrets with an acquaintance and a user. Everyone you know is not your friend. Everyone who is kind to you is not your friend.
Some people are helping you so that they can use you. If you want to confirm if a person is a user or a friend, dare to do something that will make you independent of them. If they talk you away from it, belittle your dreams and refuse to motivate and support you, they are a user. A user is anyone who doesn’t want you to grow above them.
Many people are not interested in your growth. They are interested in your downfall. They want to know what you’re doing to get ahead, not because they want to get ahead themselves, but so they could find ways to block what’s working for you. Don’t share secrets of how you make money with anyone. Don’t disclose the identities of your benefactors. Don’t partake in office gossips. Don’t join cliques. People will use you to gain promotion. We are in a generation where you’re a ladder to most people.
A woman went shopping. At the cash counter, she opened her purse to pay.
The cashier noticed a TV remote in her purse.
He could not control his curiosity and asked,
“Do you always carry your TV remote with you?”
She replied ” No, not always, but my husband refused to accompany me shopping today because of football match, so I took the remote.”
Moral: Accompany and support your wife in her hobbies…..
The story continues….
The cashier laughed and then returned all the items that lady had purchased.
Shocked at this act, she asked the cashier what he was doing.
He said, “your husband has blocked your credit card……….”
*MORAL: Always respect the hobbies of your husband.
Story continues….
Wife took out her husband’s credit card from purse and swiped it. Unfortunately he didn’t block his own card.
*Moral: Don’t underestimate the power and wisdom of your WIFE..*
Story continues…
After swiping, the machine indicated, ‘ENTER THE PIN SENT TO YOUR MOBILE PHONE’…….
*Moral: When a man tends to lose, the machine is smart enough to save him!*
Story continues….
She smiled to herself and reached out for the mobile which rang in her purse.
It was her husband’s phone showing the forwarded SMS.
She had taken it with the remote control so he didn’t call her during her shopping.
She bought her items and returned home happily.
*Moral: Don’t underestimate a desperate woman!
Story continues….
On getting home, his car was gone.
A note was pasted on the door
“Couldn’t find the remote. Gone out with the boys to watch the premiership match. Will be home late. Call me on my phone if you need something”.
Dawn… He left with the house key too.
Moral: Don’t try to control your husband.
You will always lose
- Master the art of self-discipline.
Get up early, work long hours. Be a man, face your problems head on. Be smart enough to quit porn, masturbation and alcohol abuse. They’re the worst distraction that’ll raise your dopamine, make you dumb, and depressed.
Be smart, set yourself 10 years ahead. Sleep early and work up early. Read self development books. Be willing to let go off relationships and friendships that don’t serve you. They’re your greatest setback. If you hangout with losers, you become a loser.
Learn a high-income skill. Stop chasing cheap dopamine. Prioritize what’s important over pleasure. Remember that you are responsibile for your life and never blame circumstances or anyone.
Hang out with people who obsess over making moves and living a good life. Your circle should live an honest life not gossip, complain, or get jealous of each other. No excuses.
A user only cares for you when they need or because they need something from you. An acquaintance is someone you know who is not your friend. You just know them.
They can also take advantage of the privilege of knowing you to exploit you. On no condition should you share your secrets with an acquaintance and a user. Everyone you know is not your friend. Everyone who is kind to you is not your friend.
Some people are helping you so that they can use you. If you want to confirm if a person is a user or a friend, dare to do something that will make you independent of them. If they talk you away from it, belittle your dreams and refuse to motivate and support you, they are a user. A user is anyone who doesn’t want you to grow above them.
– Close the window that hurts you, no matter how beautiful the view is.
– Do not stress over things you cannot control.
– Learn to let go.
– Your mind must be stronger than your feeling.
– Not everything was meant to be forever.
– Your best teacher is your last mistake.
– Stay where your presence matter.
– Hurting them back will not heal your pain.
– To survive the seasons, you must change with them.
– Never let anyone disrespect you.
– Never go broke to impress anyone.
– If you are not invited, don’t ask to go.
It’s time you become honest with your friends and tell them where you get money. Telling them to “keep pushing” or “keep praying” is not helping. Nothing is helping. They are stuck. They are tired of pushing hard like pregnant women and their knees are full of bruises. Don’t make fools out of your friends. And after all, remember the situation of your parents in the village. Never ever forget them.
1. Trust people who say “I don’t know” more than people who have all the answers.
2. Instead of giving your kids what you wish you had, teach them things you wish you knew.
3. Keep a small circle. It is better to go narrow and deep than wide and shallow.
4. No one cares, work harder. Show up. Do the work and seek ways to grow. Do this everyday and watch what happens.
5. You can only get stronger when you face problems head on in life. Embrace the struggle and pain. Remember the strongest soldier had the hardest fight.
6. You will never be as young as you are now. Don’t waste your time. You will regret.
7. Your best decision comes from stillness. Stillness is amplified in nature and meditation.
8. Your perception is reality. If you want a better reality, change your perception.
9. Who you choose as your partner will determine your level of peace, wealth and happiness. Choose wisely, otherwise you will regret for the rest of your life.
10. Go monk mode. Eliminate all distractions and vices and use that energy to build your health and businesses.
11. When someone shows you their true colors, believe them.
12. Money and alcohol amplify who a person is at their core.
13. The more you criticize others, the more you criticize yourself. If you want to judge yourself less, judge others less.
14 Stay away from people who always complain. They are energy vampires.
15. Stay away from people who gossip, they are most likely gossiping about you.
16. Master discipline, confidence and release stress.
17. Take complete ownership for every result in your life. The only constant in every result is you.
18. Learn how to take care of yourself; practice good hygiene habits.
19. Be open-minded; try new things even if they seem intimidating at first.
20. Learn how to manage money wisely.
21. Take care of your health by eating nutritious foods and exercising regularly so that you can stay fit both physically and mentally.
22. Take responsibility for your actions and decisions.
23. Speak up for yourself and don’t be afraid to stand up for what you believe in.
24. Be confident in yourself and your abilities.
25. Develop a sense of humor and learn to laugh at yourself.
26. Dress well and take pride in your appearance.
27. Be assertive when necessary but also learn how to compromise when needed.
28. Take risks and don’t be afraid to fail or make mistakes.
29. Develop a passion for something that you enjoy doing.
30. Learn how to fix things around the house or cars.
31. Learn how to cook simple meals from scratch.
32. Develop good communication skills.
33. Learn how to handle stress effectively.
34. Be generous with your time; volunteer at a local charity organization.
35. Develop good manners; learn how to treat people with respect regardless of their gender, race, religion, etc.
36. Exercise regularly.
37. Develop a strong work ethic and take pride in your accomplishments.
Worry not, one day you will smile and laugh over things that made you weep/cry. You gotta be strong.
Even if you feel like you’ve lost everything, even if things are not going as planned, or even if things are not in order, go harder.
Keep on moving even things are getting tough and rough. Brighter days awaits you. Keep your head high. Stand tall. The sky is the limit. Be positive. We are forged through pain, suffering and hardships.
Remember the darkest hour is always before dawn. Today you might be crying in a valley, tomorrow you will be celebrating on the mountain top. That’s life. No one has manual to it. One day, everything will be okay.
Never give up.
Goliath was more QUALIFIED than DAVID. Scripture says ‘he is a man of war from his youth.’-1 Samuel 17:33. If FAVOUR was based solely on QUALIFICATIONS, Goliath should have won that fight. Don’t be deceived. God’s ways are higher than human ways. Don’t be RASH in your judgment! The word of God says “LORD, you bless the righteous; you surround them with your FAVOR as with a shield.”-Psalm 5:21. God does not bless the world with FAVOUR. Their portion is LABOUR. It is only BELIEVERS that He blesses with FAVOUR! But notice that David did not sit down and do nothing. He prayed, prepared himself and went to work.
“If you sell your soul to the devil, it comes after everything including your lineage”
Nobody Owns anything but having the knowlege of what is avalaible to you is the first key to success.
Don’t let FAILURE CLOSE your MOUTH. Let it OPEN it. Let it make you OPEN your MOUTH in PRAYER and SUPPLICATION to God. Let FAILURE open your MOUTH so you can PROCLAIM your SUCCESS. Speak LIFE even when you see DEATH. God is the One writing your story. The FAILURES you are facing often happen because you are trying to seize the pen from Him so you can write it yourself. Don’t OPERATE as God. Instead, COOPERATE with Him.